The Ideal Age for Marriage: A Contemporary Perspective
Research indicates that in 2011, the average age for first marriages in Beijing was **28.2 years** for men and **26.1 years** for women. Meanwhile, in Shanghai, these figures were notably higher at **31.1 years** for men and **28.4 years** for women. Many individuals who choose to marry later in life believe that establishing a successful career and achieving financial stability, like owning a home and a car, is a sign of maturity and responsibility, both to themselves and their partners.
The American Perspective on Marriage Age
According to a report by the American "Network Medicine Doctor," a study has shown that the **ideal ages for marriage** are **25 for women** and **27 for men**. Previous research also suggested that age **23** is considered optimal for having one's first sexual experience. Marrying too early or too late can have negative consequences, experts suggest. Those who marry prematurely often do so impulsively, lacking a comprehensive understanding of the responsibilities that marriage entails. Conversely, late marriage can mean individuals are more established and aware of what they want from the relationship, but this can also introduce a more pragmatic viewpoint. Furthermore, marrying later can affect fertility and even sexual performance.
Expert Opinions on the Timing of Marriage
Professor Ma Xiaonian, a leading sex medicine expert from Tsinghua University’s affiliated Yuquan Hospital and chair of the Sexual Medicine Professional Committee of the Chinese Sexology Association, emphasizes that "young men should marry and young women should wed" remains a relevant truth. He frequently encounters cases where men above the age of **35**, who marry late, often face **sexual dysfunction**, particularly if they lack prior sexual experience. This phenomenon can be understood quite simply: Just as a young man learns to ride a bicycle without fear, a 40-year-old starting to ride may find it much less intuitive.
Men's Sexual Response and Age
Typically, men aged **18 to 22** experience their peak sexual responsiveness and capability. During this stage, their sexual drive is intense, characterized by frequent sexual fantasies and a strong desire to seek partners. As men reach their **30s**, the urgency of sexual impulses begins to decline, although interest in sexual activity remains. By the time men reach **40**, unless stimulated by unusual circumstances, they may find it harder to achieve rapid consecutive orgasms, and the nature of sexual pleasure begins to shift significantly. It’s often stated that **40** is the "senior adolescence," and **50** symbolizes a youthful experience in older age.
Conclusion
Understanding the dynamics of marriage and sexual responsiveness across different ages sheds light on the decisions individuals make regarding relationships. Whether marrying young or choosing a delayed commitment, awareness of these factors can guide healthier and more fulfilling partnerships.